I have nothing against dating someone unattractive, but what I don’t like is being hurt in the process!
And this is what I’m going to talk to you about in this post, the problems you are going to encounter when you are dating someone unattractive, physically, and most importantly, psychologically!
I’m sure that this is going to sound very strange, but the more someone is unattractive, the more he or she is going to cause problems when you are with him/her!
Let me tell you a little story about myself:
I was twenty-five years old, I had some money and I just got out of college, I had a very nice job and I felt great about myself, however, I was still having troubles with women, I couldn’t find a date to save my life!
One of my coworkers, a guy who was very nice, but lousy with women, suggested that I should go with his sister’s friend, she was very nice but she was totally unattractive, it’s not about her physique, it was about her way of handling herself, we were supposed to go out on a date together, but she came wearing ugly clothes and I could simply notice some facial hairs quite easily!
When we started talking, I started having fun, I started smiling and even telling her jokes and teasing her a little, well, that’s how I roll!
She got very upset, she started crying and she left, I followed her and told her that I wasn’t trying to hurt her, I was just having fun, she didn’t believe me and started telling me depressing stories about how people treated her because she was unattractive!
I stood there while she was injecting her poison into my life and when she left, she told my friend and his sister that I was very rude to her, I made fun of her in front of people and I was a terrible person, my friend got very embarrassed and even went as far as telling my boss about it, soon after, I was perceived in our office by all the women there as being the devil!
Well, this is a very common problem you are going to encounter when dating someone unattractive: he or she is going to make your life miserable!
In other words, you are not going to have fun, every time you try to have a laugh, he or she will probably take it the wrong way.
Let’s make things easy on me, from now on, I will use he instead of she, okay?
Well, HE will always believe that you are having fun at his expense; he will always feel that something is wrong with you and you are not being honest to him, which is devastating and disastrous to your self-confidence and self-esteem as well.
- The second problem you are going to encounter when dating someone unattractive is he will poison your life.
And I say this out of experience, not just the one I’ve told you about some few lines ago, but many others ones as well!
When you are dating someone unattractive, every opportunity you have in order to improve yourself and advance in life is going to threaten him, that’s why he will try to impose his desires, try to stop you and even use his gloom and doom mentality on you!
Well, this will happen because most unattractive people behave this way because they have very low self-esteem and this is what you need to avoid at all costs.
- And the third problem is that dating someone unattractive is going to prevent you from meeting attractive people.
For a very long time in my life, I kept only focusing on unattractive women, I thought to myself that they were very easy to date and they would be very satisfied of me!
Wrong I was!
Well, when I started thinking about it, they were causing me different kinds of problems; in fact, I was causing myself different kinds of problems by only dating unattractive women, I myself became unattractive!
All this changed when I started focusing on truly attractive and beautiful women, I made a list of the attributes I wanted in them, she had to be blonde, tall, blue/green eyes, big tatas, a nice body etc.
Soon, I realized that dating people who were attractive was way easier, they were self-confident, I could have fun around them and more importantly, they made me feel good about myself.