In this post, I’m going to talk about mixed signals in dating, it’s very important that you know about this very important subject because things can be so overwhelming and so stressful when you don’t know what you are meant to do and what you are expected to act or say!
- The first thing you need to understand about mixed signals in dating is that they are very common!
In other words, expect them all the time!
Yes, the more you look at people, the more you are going to find that they are confused about their feelings, not only that, but they are also confused about other people’s feelings as well.
So, today, they may give you body language signals that they like you and that they feel good about you, but tomorrow, they may look elsewhere and ignore you completely, it’s not your fault, it’s completely theirs, they don’t understand how to behave with others.
They also lack self-confidence, which is why most people are going to send mixed signals, it’s a direct interpretation of their current state of mind, when they are confident, they will look so, they will initiate eye contact with you, they may even talk to you and make you feel comfortable, yet, when they are not, that’s when you are going to feel horrible about yourself and unsure about them as well.
And today, I would like to share with you a simple technique in order to avoid them as much as possible.
This technique I would like to share with you consists of the following: not caring!
I know that what I’m saying here is going to confuse so many of you, but it’s the reality, in most dating situations, people are quite confused, whether you or the other person, you don’t understand what’s going on, in fact, you don’t understand what is the problem, and sometimes, you want the other person to call you and he or she doesn’t, and another time, you want the other person to make the next move and go ahead with the relationship, yet, he or she doesn’t and you feel frustrated!
Well, I’ve been dealing with mixed signals for a very long time of my life, and to this day, there isn’t a definitive solution to them, it’s because it’s not in your control zones!
I’ve learned this concept, control zones, from a very important book that you need to read very soon, it’s called The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey, it’s probably the most important book you need to read if you would like to improve your dating and communication in general, you will improve your life a lot. In this book, the author argues with their idea that if you have things outside your zones of control, you can do nothing about them, the only thing you can do is to stop worrying and live your life like you wish to.
So, if you would like to lower mixed signals in dating, don’t expect others to change and make things easy on you, change first and make things easy on yourself first, and in fact, stop relying on others to go ahead with the relationship, if you want him or her to call you, forget this idea, and busy yourself doing things you love and enjoy, if you want him or her to say that he/she likes you, forget about this idea and like yourself more instead, and if you feel that the other person is always indecisive and not sure of what to do and say next, don’t worry, just be independent and let him/her come to you instead of going to him or her!
It’s truly one of the best ways I’ve found in order to lower mixed signals while dating and I really hope it helps you.