“She cheated on her boyfriend with me!” This is the subject line a reader sent me some few days ago in an e-mail, and trust me, I was very concerned about this situation and I wrote him a very lengthy e-mail, but for privacy sake, I’m not going to publish it, I’m only going to give you the most important advice I’ve given him.
- The first thing I want you to do is to relax and tell yourself that you have nothing to do with this!
Most of the time, I always tell guys to take responsibility for their behavior and their mistakes, but right now, I want you to relax and not think “seriously” about this problem, however, only do this if you didn’t know about her boyfriend!
But, if you knew that she had a boyfriend and you went out with her anyway, then you are to blame and everything that’s going to happen to you is your fault!
I’m sorry to say this, but cheating is no easy matter, and the only way left for you to do is to break up with her as quickly and as soon as possible and pray her boyfriend doesn’t find out, then, you need to avoid her as much as possible, otherwise, you are going to fall into this trap again.
Most of the time, girls are going to use guys in order to make their boyfriends feel jealous, don’t let her do this to you, always stay on your course, always be in control of your life, and never let her manipulate you.
- What if you didn’t know?
Then, the best thing for you to do is to ignore this and never go out with her again, obviously, she’s not the type of girl you need to meet and spend time with! She is a cheater, and whatever reason she told you, she is probably manipulating you and lying to you, and her boyfriend is definitely a victim, and so are you.
The best thing for you is to let this problem go, and please, don’t go out with her again, after all, you don’t want to see yourself as only deserving cheaters, have some esteem for yourself and let her go, she will only bring you troubles.