I’ve received an e-mail from a guy some three weeks ago, in it, he was talking about how his crush has a boyfriend now! In other words, he was regretful, jealous, and extremely sad, didn’t know how to behave and what to do next!
Let me tell you the story in much more details:
He was interested in a girl for more than three months, he couldn’t approach her or talk to her, in fact, he was hesitant to do so, and on many occasions, he backed down in the last seconds!
So, now, she slipped between his fingers, and she has a boyfriend, he cannot get himself to feel good and he decided to write me an e-mail and tell me about this situation!
So, she has a boyfriend now! What can you do?
Well, you can only do one thing: move on!
Whether she was your ex-girlfriend, ex-sweetheart, or even your ex-wife, please, don’t alarm yourself any longer, if she has a boyfriend now, don’t think to yourself that you are to blame, don’t say to yourself that you have wasted good opportunities, I believe that every one of us is destined to have what he deserves and what is written for him by God or by circumstances, and no matter what you do, you are never going to run away from your destiny!
I’m sure that this is going to sound very fluffy, but it’s one of the most important things you need to believe in when you are dealing with women:
Don’t put too much importance on them; the more you care about them, the more they are going to run away and become scarce from your life!
I’m sure that this idea is going to sound very strange to most of you, but this is absolutely the reality, when you focus a lot on one particular woman, she is going to run away from your life, in fact, she is going to find it so unbearable to be the “most important thing” in your life that she will just disappear, in fact, sometimes, without even talking to her, she is going to feel that you are putting too much attention on her and she won’t like it!
So, what to do, she’s got a boyfriend now?! So what?
From my experience, the best thing you can do is to move on, don’t stay focused on her, and keep your dating life active, in other words, meet other women, go out more often, and most importantly, start caring about yourself and consider every failure you encounter an opportunity to learn a very important lesson.
Before meeting my wife, I was with a very attractive girlfriend, she was working in a bank and she had all the characteristics of “the one”.
I was highly interested and seduced by her and I wanted things to move on between us, so, I kept meeting her almost every day thinking that I was doing great in the relationship, and soon, she got fed up and told me that she was suffocating with me, I took it like a man, I told her that she was free and she can do whatever she wants, so, she stopped calling me, I stopped calling her, she stopped texting me, I stopped texting her, and we stopped seeing each other, soon, she was with another guy!
I was a little sad, but deep down, I knew my mistake: I put too much focus on her, and I decided that her leaving me was a good price for such a valuable lesson. Soon after, I met my wife and I have to say that these last years were probably the most joyful moments in my life, I cannot ask for better experiences and time spent.
Don’t get depressed if she’s got a boyfriend now, what you need to do is move on and learn your lesson.