I receive so many questions from different readers and one of the most recurring ones are about first and second dates kissing rules! I’m not sure who invented this, but it’s just stupid!
Most people think that kissing on your second date should be avoided because things are not well settled yet between you two and it may cause damages to any future relationship!
Well, this is completely false; I have kissed on many first dates, second dates, and even when we just met!
Kissing is not something to be avoided, it’s something to be desired, and I tend to think that if I don’t kiss on the first date, it’s a failed one!
But that’s just me, so, should you kiss on the second date?
Of course you should, in fact, you should try to kiss on the first date, it’s much more beneficial for the relationship.
There is a terrible thing happening in the dating scene right now, it’s people being scared of getting physical and intimate with each other! I’ve watched this with my own eyes, men and women meeting for the first, second, third, and even sixth date until they start holding hands and kissing!
Well, if you do this, you are running into some very deep troubles! You should kiss on the second date maximum, if you don’t do it, the other person is going to start doubting you and even worse, doubting your intentions.
And this is how people end up in the dreaded friend zone forever, it’s because they do not initiate intimacy at a very early stage, they think that affection is dangerous for the relationship!
Well, let me tell you that intimacy is relationship, you cannot take one from another, if you have a relationship without intimacy, then it’s not truly a relationship, it’s merely friendship!
And here, I’m not talking about sexual intercourse, I’m talking about holding hands, kissing, and being intimate with each other. I myself disagree when it comes to one night stands and having sexual intercourse on the first or second date, I find it unnatural, I cannot trust a woman to sleep with her until I’ve known her a little.
Focus on intimacy first, whenever you find an opportunity to kiss and enjoy each other, do it, sometimes, the other person is going to feel hesitant, but if you are gentle and caring, everything should be all right.
- Then, how to kiss on the second date?
It’s quite easy, when you are talking, enjoy each other’s company, having fun, some laughs etc. Then, look right into her eyes and go for a kiss, it’s this easy and will always work.
So, should you kiss on the first or second date?
The answer is this: whatever works for you, but I personally prefer that you kiss on the first date; it will put your relationship on the right frame immediately.